The Healing Lounge with Marcia

Live in The Healing Room: It's Not a "You" Problem, It's a Brain Problem

Season 1 Episode 18

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"Just move on. Just let it go. Just forget about it."

If breaking free from a narcissistic relationship were that simple, you'd already be done. But it's not, and there's a reason why.

In this live recording from The Healing Room, I break down the hard truth about trauma bonds and why willpower alone will never be enough to break them. This isn't about weakness - it's about understanding that you're dealing with a brain problem, not a character flaw.

I'm covering:

  • Why your brain treats the relationship like an addiction (because it literally is)
  • The neurological patterns keeping you stuck in the cycle
  • Why New Year's resolutions are a trap when it comes to trauma bonds
  • The three things you actually need: structure, community, and the right framework
  • How to stop setting yourself up for failure and start creating real change

As someone who spent 30 years in a marriage to a narcissist and five years breaking my own trauma bond, I'm not just teaching this - I've lived it. And I'm here to walk through it with you.

Join me every Monday at 7 PM EST on TikTok and Instagram for Monday Night Live in The Healing Room, where we're breaking bonds and building better lives.

Free Workshop: Join me January 19th, 2026 for a 75-minute deep dive on breaking the trauma bond.

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